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How I destress and relax after a busy workday | Self-Care Habits
Long, busy days can be productive, but they can also be stressful. It is important to set aside time to destress and relax after work. Follow along as I share with you how I destress and relax after I get home from work. Small self-care habits such as taking a walk, sipping some warm tea, or setting aside quiet time for yourself are relaxing ways to wind down. I hope this will inspire you to dedicate time to yourself even with your busy schedule.

As I wrap up the last email of the day, I always feel a sense of accomplishment and productivity. However, after a long and busy day, it’s hard not to feel a little stressed. Even when I pack up my things and leave the office, my mind often lingers on work. I remind myself that I’m working toward a healthier balance between my professional and personal life. I’ve completed today’s tasks and addressed the priorities, so whatever remains can be left for tomorrow.

When I get home, I make an intentional effort to unwind and relax. One of my favorite ways to transition from work to home life is by opening all the windows to let the fresh, cool evening air flow in. There’s something about this simple act that feels so cathartic, and it immediately improves my mood. I also find that taking just a few minutes to tidy up my living space makes a big difference. Folding the blanket or putting things back in their places gives me a small, mindless task to focus on, which helps me slow down and feel more at ease.
Does anyone else get excited about clean dishes? I know I do! Becoming a plant mom this past year has also taught me the importance of nurturing something living, which in turn reminds me to take better care of myself. Whether it’s noticing a new leaf or flower bud or seeing a plant begin to wilt from neglect, my plants reflect the attention I give them—and remind me to tend to my own self-care.

Our small balcony garden brings so much joy, and in the evenings, my favorite way to de-stress is by taking a walk outside. After spending the whole day indoors, it feels so refreshing to step outside and enjoy the weather. These evening walks are also a chance to share quality time and reflect on the day, or just savor the comfortable silence where no words are needed. In these quiet moments, we take in the beauty of our surroundings and appreciate the peacefulness of the evening.
After dinner, I like to take a shower and change into cozy clothes, winding down with a warm cup of tea. I love trying new teas, so if you have any recommendations, I’d love to hear them! It’s perfectly okay to do nothing for the rest of the night—sometimes, lighting a candle and sipping tea is enough. On other nights, I may set aside time for myself to engage in a quiet activity, like reading a book, replying to messages, or journaling.

Journaling is especially helpful for me to process my thoughts. It’s a way to release whatever is on my mind and make sense of it. While not every night looks like this, these small rituals help me de-stress and relax. Above all, it’s important to be kind to myself, to let go of expectations, and to recognize that tomorrow is a new day filled with new possibilities.
As I embrace these simple routines, I’ve learned the importance of creating space for myself. Each of these little habits—whether it’s opening the windows, caring for my plants, or enjoying a peaceful walk—serves as a reminder that self-care doesn’t have to be extravagant. It’s about finding joy in the little moments and being present with myself.

Some days are more hectic than others, and not every evening feels this calm. There are times when work weighs on my mind or when unexpected responsibilities arise. But even then, I try to carve out a few minutes for myself, to breathe deeply and refocus. It’s a practice I’m still learning, balancing the demands of work with the need to recharge, but I’m gradually realizing how crucial it is to disconnect from the day’s pressures.
One of the things that has helped me most is the realization that rest is not a reward but a necessity. It’s easy to fall into the mindset that I must earn my rest by ticking off every item on my to-do list. Yet, I’m learning to accept that it’s okay to pause, even if everything isn’t finished. The work will still be there tomorrow, and allowing myself to rest makes me more focused and productive when I return to it.

The evenings, for me, are a sacred time to reset. Whether it’s through mindfulness, spending time in nature, or simply savoring a quiet cup of tea, these moments remind me of the importance of inner peace. They also help me cultivate a mindset of gratitude. Even on the busiest days, there’s always something to appreciate—the fresh breeze through the window, the sight of a new plant sprouting, or the warmth of a hot drink in my hands.
Over time, I’ve come to understand that the way I end my day sets the tone for the next. By taking the time to relax and let go of any lingering stress, I give myself the gift of a fresh start tomorrow. And that’s one of the most powerful forms of self-care—knowing when to pause, reset, and begin again.

As I settle into the night, I’m reminded that it’s okay to take things slow, to savor the little joys, and to be kind to myself. Tomorrow is a new opportunity, and whatever challenges it brings, I’ll face them with a clearer mind and a calmer heart.
As I embrace the peacefulness of the evening, I realize that these quiet moments are not just pauses but essential parts of my routine. They allow me to reflect on the day without judgment and prepare for the one ahead with a lighter heart. It’s a subtle but powerful shift—from feeling like I’m constantly on the go to learning that it’s okay to slow down and just be.

I’ve noticed that when I consistently make time for these small acts of self-care, they begin to add up. They create a foundation of balance in my life, reminding me that my well-being is just as important as any task or deadline. Sometimes, that means setting boundaries—not just with others, but with myself. It’s about knowing when to say, “That’s enough for today,” and trusting that tomorrow will bring new energy and focus.
On some nights, I might choose to stay up a little longer, journaling about the day or reading a book that inspires me. Other times, I’ll simply sit in the stillness, enjoying the flicker of a candle or the warmth of a blanket. I’m learning that not every night needs to be productive in the traditional sense. Sometimes, the most productive thing I can do is allow myself to rest and recharge, free from the pressure to do more.

The act of journaling has become particularly meaningful to me. Writing down my thoughts helps me untangle the knots in my mind, and it’s a way to leave behind the stresses of the day. It’s also a gentle reminder that it’s okay to have a mix of emotions—to feel both tired and accomplished, to have moments of doubt and moments of clarity. By putting my thoughts on paper, I give myself the space to process them without holding on too tightly.
As I prepare to end my night, I take a final moment to center myself. Whether through meditation, deep breathing, or simply enjoying the quiet, I allow myself to fully disconnect from the day’s worries. It’s in these moments that I realize how essential it is to care for both my mind and body, not just when I feel overwhelmed but as a regular part of my routine.

These rituals, while simple, have become anchors for me. They remind me that self-care is not an indulgence, but a necessity. It’s about creating balance, nurturing both my responsibilities and my need for rest. As I blow out the candle or finish the last sip of tea, I feel a sense of closure for the day, knowing that I’ve done my best. Tomorrow will come with its own challenges, but for now, I’m content to simply be.
And as I drift off to sleep, I hold onto the idea that each day is a new beginning. No matter what happened today, tomorrow offers a fresh start, and I’ll meet it with the same calm, grounded energy that I’ve cultivated tonight. In this way, I’m learning to approach life not with a sense of rush but with patience and mindfulness—knowing that taking care of myself is the key to taking care of everything else.

